How to be Everything: A guide for those who (still) don’t know what they want to be when they grow up
It's a familiar question we're all eventually asked as kids. While seemingly harmless, the question has unintended consequences. It can make you feel like you need to choose one job, one passion, one thing to be about.
Guess what? You don’t.
Having a lot of different interests, projects and curiosities doesn't make you a "jack-of-all-trades, master of none." Your endless curiosity doesn't mean you are broken or flaky. What you are is a multipotentialite: someone with many interests and creative pursuits. And as Emilie Wapnick would say, that may actually be your biggest strength.
"What do you want to be when you grow up?"
Have you ever wished that you could decode people? Do you want a formula for charisma? Do you want to know exactly what to say to your boss, your date or your networking partner? You need to know how people work.
As a human behavior investigator, Vanessa Van Edwards believes that people skills should never be considered "optional." Over the past decade, she's studied the hidden forces that drive our behavior patterns in her lab, the Science of People, and she's developed shortcuts, formulas, and blueprints for getting along with absolutely anyone you may encounter.Read More
I just heard from my publisher that they’re running a promotion to discount the digital version of The $100 Startup to just $1.99. The book has never been discounted before—not once in 5 years!Read More
I just heard from my publisher that they’re running a promotion to discount the digital version of Born for This to just $1.99. The book has never been discounted before, and it won’t be repeated anytime in 2017 (and maybe not after that).
This is my most personal book yet, but it’s not really about me—it’s about how to find the work you were meant to do.Read More
Lesson: Improving “soft skills” can increase your value no matter what kind of career you have.Hard skills are things you learned through technical or academic training: how to make architectural drawings with certain software, how to properly administer medication as a nurse, and so on. Soft skills are just as important—if not more—but aren’t usually taught in school. To be more effective (and to become more valuable), spend time improving your soft skills in writing, negotiation, conflict management, and follow-up. Read More
Personally I love print books, and I also read some Kindle titles on my iPad—but I also know that there’s a large group of people who enjoy listening to books. With that in mind, we recently released the audio version of Born for This. It clocks in at just over 8 hours, long enough to enjoy on a flight to Europe.Read More
Whenever I give a talk for the first time, I’m very nervous. Like a lot of internal struggles, I don’t think the goal is to pretend the nervousness doesn’t exist. It’s a talk, also known as public speaking, also known as the #1 fear for a majority of the population. If you’re not nervous at all, you're probably not treating it with the attention it deserves.If it’s a new talk or a one-off, something that I prepared entirely for a specific experience and won’t repeat again, I spend at least several hours beforehand thinking about it. Behind the stage, or in the nearby stairwell, or around the block outside the venue, I’ll pace and look at my notes and think through what I’m going to say over and over. Read More
Greetings from Denver! Weeks II and III of the Born for This tour are coming to an end, and it’s been a great experience overall.For the most part, it’s been a non-stop experience. At one point I did 14 days in a row with only one day off from events or travel or both (usually both, since I typically do an event in the evening and then travel to the next city the following day). Oddly enough, I only felt tired on the rare days of rest or during periods of lesser intensity. Maybe the lesson is: when you’re going non-stop, don’t stop. 😃 Read More
- Hack the job of your dreams within a company or organization by making it work for you
- Find your ideal work and your ideal working conditions
- Create plans that will allow you to take smarter career risks and “beat the house” every time
- Start a profitable “side hustle” and earn extra cash on top of your primary stream of income
- Escape the prison of working for someone else and build a mini-empire as an entrepreneur
- Become a rock star at any creative endeavor by creating a loyal base of fans and followers
Dear Self,Your problem is that you think everything matters. The things that you do every day, the tasks that occupy your mind and draw on your energy—you think they are helping you make linear progress towards a significant destination. And maybe you are making progress. But what if you’re just making linear progress on something that is ultimately inconsequential? Read More
One day I’ll drink less coffee... but it won’t be anytime soon.Over the past few weeks I’ve had my passport locked in a drawer, and I haven’t allowed myself to purchase any plane tickets that cross an ocean. Am I tired of seeing the world? Nope. I’ll actually be on the road to 30 cities starting very soon, but they’re all in the U.S. and Canada. In exactly seven days, my new book Born for This will launch into the world. Read More
For the past eight years I’ve made a good living through online publishing. I’ve shared much of the journey along the way, but I first documented the overall process in a manifesto, 279 Days to Overnight Success.This manifesto went on to have a life of its own, thanks to the generous sharing of readers. Every single day—seven years later!—I hear from people who have found it online and enjoyed it. And guess what? I think at least some of the lessons I taught so fervently back then are wrong. Read More