Comments on: The Art of Radical Exclusion http://chrisguillebeau.com/3x5/the-art-of-radical-exclusion/ Unconventional Strategies for Life, Work, and Travel Tue, 16 Mar 2010 15:32:46 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: kg http://chrisguillebeau.com/3x5/the-art-of-radical-exclusion/comment-page-1/#comment-15435 kg Mon, 28 Dec 2009 02:10:48 +0000 http://chrisguillebeau.com/3x5/?p=823#comment-15435 I schedule in weekly no input times where I don't do email, internet or the phone. If I get too many inputs without a break I feel out of sorts. My family says I'm hibernating but I come out of it refreshed. They don't really hibernate to the extent that I do. I schedule in weekly no input times where I don’t do email, internet or the phone. If I get too many inputs without a break I feel out of sorts. My family says I’m hibernating but I come out of it refreshed. They don’t really hibernate to the extent that I do.

]]> By: Carolyn http://chrisguillebeau.com/3x5/the-art-of-radical-exclusion/comment-page-1/#comment-14815 Carolyn Fri, 11 Dec 2009 04:38:39 +0000 http://chrisguillebeau.com/3x5/?p=823#comment-14815 I also struggle with this - and just when I think I've got it under control... things get out of control! Personally, it's very hard since the emails and requests I receive tend to have strong emotions tied to them. I am learning to create boundaries and say "no, but...." I have compiled a list of individuals and organizations that I can then recommend so it leaves the message on a positive note. This is such a great topic for discussion! I also struggle with this – and just when I think I’ve got it under control… things get out of control! Personally, it’s very hard since the emails and requests I receive tend to have strong emotions tied to them. I am learning to create boundaries and say “no, but….” I have compiled a list of individuals and organizations that I can then recommend so it leaves the message on a positive note.

This is such a great topic for discussion!

]]> By: Deb http://chrisguillebeau.com/3x5/the-art-of-radical-exclusion/comment-page-1/#comment-10934 Deb Fri, 10 Jul 2009 19:11:02 +0000 http://chrisguillebeau.com/3x5/?p=823#comment-10934 I am nodding at GirlPie's comment about a former love who demonstrated a refusal to keep promises. That aside, my current circumstances have dictated that I use the library's internet access or my financial boat will not float very long. It is a bit of a hardship on the one hand; and I have had to explain and seek the cooperation of all my sources and my print editors (I freelance for a small hometown paper). However, having my online activity consolidated into two 1 hour dockets has been overall very freeing from a creativity and productivity angle; so much so that I am not certain internet is going to be the first thing I restore once my attorney is paid off. I'll have to think about it. Loved the post. I am nodding at GirlPie’s comment about a former love who demonstrated a refusal to keep promises.

That aside, my current circumstances have dictated that I use the library’s internet access or my financial boat will not float very long. It is a bit of a hardship on the one hand; and I have had to explain and seek the cooperation of all my sources and my print editors (I freelance for a small hometown paper). However, having my online activity consolidated into two 1 hour dockets has been overall very freeing from a creativity and productivity angle; so much so that I am not certain internet is going to be the first thing I restore once my attorney is paid off. I’ll have to think about it.

Loved the post.

]]> By: Sheri.A. http://chrisguillebeau.com/3x5/the-art-of-radical-exclusion/comment-page-1/#comment-9706 Sheri.A. Mon, 01 Jun 2009 02:21:46 +0000 http://chrisguillebeau.com/3x5/?p=823#comment-9706 Hi Chris, I feel it's not so much rigorous or even anti-social...I'd say more of a focused in/output kinda thing. Do it, love it. ~Sheri Hi Chris,

I feel it’s not so much rigorous or even anti-social…I’d say more of a focused in/output kinda thing. Do it, love it.

~Sheri

]]> By: anwar http://chrisguillebeau.com/3x5/the-art-of-radical-exclusion/comment-page-1/#comment-5120 anwar Tue, 20 Jan 2009 13:26:35 +0000 http://chrisguillebeau.com/3x5/?p=823#comment-5120 Radical exclusion is the essence of living.You need time for yourself whether it is reading that book you been delaying to read , walk along the beach,park - you owe it to yourself.It is like recharging -"you always come out better on the other side" Radical exclusion is the essence of living.You need time for yourself whether it is reading that book you been delaying to read , walk along the beach,park – you owe it to yourself.It is like recharging -”you always come out better on the other side”

]]> By: Trackback from the Waki Librarian http://chrisguillebeau.com/3x5/the-art-of-radical-exclusion/comment-page-1/#comment-4789 Trackback from the Waki Librarian Fri, 09 Jan 2009 16:33:54 +0000 http://chrisguillebeau.com/3x5/?p=823#comment-4789 [...] First we have this great article on the art of radical exclusion. Now this is going to be very, very difficult for those of us who are people pleasers and volunteers of the world. You know who you are. But just read the article and think to yourself, what is more important: saying yes to everything that everyone ever asks of you or having your sanity at the end of the day. For those who feel stretched too thin, take heart and try the art of radical exclusion.[...] [...] First we have this great article on the art of radical exclusion. Now this is going to be very, very difficult for those of us who are people pleasers and volunteers of the world. You know who you are. But just read the article and think to yourself, what is more important: saying yes to everything that everyone ever asks of you or having your sanity at the end of the day. For those who feel stretched too thin, take heart and try the art of radical exclusion.[...]

]]> By: Trackback from Shlepping In BC http://chrisguillebeau.com/3x5/the-art-of-radical-exclusion/comment-page-1/#comment-4543 Trackback from Shlepping In BC Mon, 29 Dec 2008 02:03:17 +0000 http://chrisguillebeau.com/3x5/?p=823#comment-4543 [...] I may or may not have a good excuse for why I failed to honor the commitment, but one thing’s for sure: if I make a habit of it, I will soon lose the trust of the person who had relied on me. [...] [...] I may or may not have a good excuse for why I failed to honor the commitment, but one thing’s for sure: if I make a habit of it, I will soon lose the trust of the person who had relied on me. [...]

]]> By: LifeMadeGreat | Juliet http://chrisguillebeau.com/3x5/the-art-of-radical-exclusion/comment-page-1/#comment-4516 LifeMadeGreat | Juliet Sat, 27 Dec 2008 10:39:19 +0000 http://chrisguillebeau.com/3x5/?p=823#comment-4516 Hi This one is a struggle, but it is necessary. (I really battle with it and am very much in my starting stages of changing it) I think that authenticity is important and doing something that you don't really file like is not being authentic (unless you are doing it specifically for someone and that is the important bit). Sooner or later taking on too much will wipe out the YOU. Not doing the necessary for yourslef means you can't give as much to others. I do not believe it is antisocial at all. Anyway, who is to say that antisocial is wrong? ;) If people drift out of your life because of it, did you really want them there in the first place? You can see I have lots of thoughts around this one ;) Juliet Hi

This one is a struggle, but it is necessary. (I really battle with it and am very much in my starting stages of changing it)

I think that authenticity is important and doing something that you don’t really file like is not being authentic (unless you are doing it specifically for someone and that is the important bit).

Sooner or later taking on too much will wipe out the YOU. Not doing the necessary for yourslef means you can’t give as much to others.

I do not believe it is antisocial at all. Anyway, who is to say that antisocial is wrong? ;)

If people drift out of your life because of it, did you really want them there in the first place?

You can see I have lots of thoughts around this one ;)

Juliet

]]> By: Trackback from Scott H Young http://chrisguillebeau.com/3x5/the-art-of-radical-exclusion/comment-page-1/#comment-4503 Trackback from Scott H Young Fri, 26 Dec 2008 17:01:03 +0000 http://chrisguillebeau.com/3x5/?p=823#comment-4503 [...] The Art of Radical Exclusion (Or How to Say No) - Another great entry by Chris Guillebeau about the importance of eliminating commitments that aren’t centered on your goals.  This is something I’m having to manage more.  I’ve found the more successes I experience, the more opportunities people offer me, and as a result, the more I need to turn down. [...] [...] The Art of Radical Exclusion (Or How to Say No) – Another great entry by Chris Guillebeau about the importance of eliminating commitments that aren’t centered on your goals.  This is something I’m having to manage more.  I’ve found the more successes I experience, the more opportunities people offer me, and as a result, the more I need to turn down. [...]

]]> By: Janice Cartier http://chrisguillebeau.com/3x5/the-art-of-radical-exclusion/comment-page-1/#comment-4426 Janice Cartier Thu, 18 Dec 2008 15:43:52 +0000 http://chrisguillebeau.com/3x5/?p=823#comment-4426 Hands GirlPie tissue.. been there too sweetie...(although media man is making strides these days.) There's a book out called Total Leadership that I am working through. It was featured on Tim Ferriss's blog some time ago and the premise made sense to me. Four areas of our life, work, community, love and self ( I think I got those right) should not be balanced like a scale, but synchronized like a jazz quartet. Maybe I bought the analogy, but so far the first part is examining who you are and what you are about authentically. Anyway, I bought the book not only for myself, but to recognize the same qualities in the next person I chose to be with. You know, the grown up who knows what IS really important in life. ;-) And how to play those notes like a master. Hands GirlPie tissue.. been there too sweetie…(although media man is making strides these days.)
There’s a book out called Total Leadership that I am working through. It was featured on Tim Ferriss’s blog some time ago and the premise made sense to me. Four areas of our life, work, community, love and self ( I think I got those right) should not be balanced like a scale, but synchronized like a jazz quartet.
Maybe I bought the analogy, but so far the first part is examining who you are and what you are about authentically. Anyway, I bought the book not only for myself, but to recognize the same qualities in the next person I chose to be with. You know, the grown up who knows what IS really important in life. ;-) And how to play those notes like a master.

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