Comments on: Ever Feel Like Giving Up?

By: Archie

Archie — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 13:40:38 +0000

When I’m tired and its all got too much, I tend to cry a bit. Pull myself together and tell myself Ive not been beaten before, cant break my track record. That and my wife usually gives me a clip round the ear and a hug and then its all good again

Im still working on escaping my conventional life, Im giving it up by the 31st December this year, ready or not.

By: Lex Mosgrove

Lex Mosgrove — Thu, 11 Feb 2010 13:11:55 +0000

I use TMT. That’s three minute therapy, and really helps beat those feelings of hopelesness for me. I also remind myself of what I’ve already achieved/learned/improved, and the price I paid for that.

Right, and reading blogs like yours, that have the habit of giving me exactly the right ideas at the right time, and proving that there is indeed a chance to be succesful that way.

By: Heather

Heather — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 17:34:40 +0000

Thanks for this article… it’s helpful to know that others get stuck and afraid to move forward sometimes too.

I know I won’t go back to the “regular job” lifestyle – it never suited me and it never will. However, I realize now that my strongest reason for doing what I’m doing is to NOT GO BACK to the “jobby job” as I call it. That isn’t motivation enough though on the lonely mornings when I’d rather stay in bed than get up and try again to connect with people, make a difference and earn a decent living. I love the freedom I have, but I don’t use it well at all.

Your article, and some of the comments I read, have inspired me to go deeper and try to discover a bigger “Why” for living the non-conventional life. Wish me luck!

By: lavonne

lavonne — Sat, 06 Feb 2010 14:20:06 +0000

I’m going through a patch of give-up-itis right now, so I’m mustering all the weapons I can find and remember:

1. Reading inspiring people like you and your commenters.

2. The lessons I’ve learned from reading authors like Pema Chodron — when you’re feeling an uncomfortable emotion like (in my case) fear, what does it actually feel like, physically? For me, it’s a sick feeling in the pit of my stomach combined with an ache in my arms. Noticing the physical aspect of an emotion helps you step outside it and become an observer, which often relieves the discomfort considerably.

3. Finally, I remember my own experiences of dealing with fear in the past. Sometimes I’ve let it get the best of me and regretted it; that’s motivation to not repeat the experience. Other times, I faced the fear and and reaped great benefit: I’ve done it before – I can do it again.

I’m running through all of these over and over at the moment, knowing/hoping that eventually I’ll get through this too.

By: Jesse

Jesse — Fri, 05 Feb 2010 15:01:35 +0000

I remind myself that it’s always challenging traveling uncharted territory. I try to silence the voices in my head that say, “What are you doing?!” I know that while I’ve made choices that others question, as time passes, I see the real benefit of those choices. And when those things don’t work, I go to bed early. Everything always looks better in the morning.

By: Christine

Christine — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 03:02:50 +0000

Its great to read these and see how others fair in their battles to pursue what they are really after

I often feel like giving up, because it seems that my ideas are too big and adventurous. The slight possibility that I could fail in any way, (those pesky what-if statements) have been holding me down until now, I’m slowly learning to push those aside and just go for it.

By: Ayhtnic

Ayhtnic — Thu, 07 Jan 2010 21:44:55 +0000

Hey, thanks a lot for these lines. I really enjoyed reading this article and it has a lot of impact in how I actually feel when all was turning gray and I was starting to give up, but I have to face my own obstacles and find a reason to go on.
I chose this path and I think it´s fine. I´m a pediatrician and working for children is the best I could ever do in my life. I´m ready to take the life as it is…a risk itself.

By: RoX

RoX — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 18:22:08 +0000

When I feel like giving up I deliberately take a step out of the picture. I remember all the times in my life I wanted to give up before on different “quests” and I ask myself:

1. On the things I gave up, did I feel better about it afterwards?

2. On the things I didn’t, how was the usual process?

Most of the time, the answer to question #2 looks like this to me:

1. I felt lonely and misunderstood. How I wished I was a baby instead of a grown-up so I could just sit down and cry!

2. The world didn’t stop just because I was having a hard time coping so while days kept passing by I eventually started calming down.

3. With the days (ok, sometimes it took me weeks) I was in a different standpoint concerning my former “huge” obstacles.

4. Everything looked bright again, I was motivated, remembered why was I here for and I was ready to get back on track!

Since I already know how will this look like I just let things happen, I don’t worry, I don’t quit, I don’t give up!

By: flip

flip — Mon, 14 Dec 2009 14:26:20 +0000

if i feel like giving up on something, i take some time and go to some place quiet. i would think about that ‘thing’ if it’s worth keeping or maybe it’s just time to give it up. if it’s worth fighting for it, i’ll fake a smile on my face and would think alot of happy thoughts until a real smile takes over the fake one.

but recently, i just learned to flow with life’s spontaneity. as long as whatever im doing feels right for me, even if it’s not achieving the success that im expecting or regardless if people are throwing harsh criticisms on it… i would still pursue it.

i think life is just an experience that we need to go thru… im just trying to enjoy every single bits of it, regardless if its good or bad…

By: John

John — Sat, 12 Dec 2009 05:42:07 +0000

I say if the end result is good, then persevere.